What is bullying? Bullying is repeated, unwanted, overtly or subtly aggressive behaviour used to physically or mentally control or harm others. Examples of bullying include making threats, spreading rumours, excluding someone from a group, or attacking someone physically or verbally. Who is affected by bullying? Bullying usually starting in childhood and children who are bullied …
How are you feeling? Okay, or maybe anxious? Maybe you know someone who’s feeling anxious? This week we’ll look at what anxiety is, what causes it and some things you can do to help. Anxiety can manifest in many ways: you can feel nervous, restless or tense, weak or tired, or unable to concentrate on …
This was written near the end of ‘Sober October’. What’s your tipple? The two-headed beast known as alcohol has the friendly face – the one that we associate with relaxing, celebrating, socialising and sophistication – and the hooded yet fearsome face that represents varying degrees of poor health, unhappiness, fear and despair. This month has …
My column in today’s JEP looks at mental health provision and a few simple things to do if you’re ‘not OK’. Would you like help with anxiety or depression? You can book a free, no-obligation Discovery Call here. # # # This mentions a couple of Jersey’s institutions but the concepts apply to all. Saturday …
We’ve looked at the legal drugs caffeine, nicotine and alcohol; today we’ll look at highly processed ready-meals and snacks or ’junk food’. While junk foods are not classified as drugs, any food high in sugar or a sugar-fat combo exaggerates responses to stimuli to such an extent it can be very difficult to turn away …
We’ve looked at the legal drugs caffeine and nicotine; today we’ll look at alcohol. There are many aspects to this, so today we’ll consider why alcohol makes us ‘drunk’ and why some seem to need greater amounts of alcohol just to feel normal. For any addict, certain environmental cues become very strongly associated with the …
If you were handed a pesticide to inhale, would you take it? Are you sure? Last time we looked at one of the three legal, widely available, psychoactive drugs that billions of people worldwide use daily; that was caffeine. Another one of those is nicotine, which we’ll look at today. Nicotine, the oldest pesticide in …
Billions of people worldwide use three legal, widely available, psychoactive drugs daily; do you? The drugs in question are caffeine, nicotine and alcohol. Today, we’ll look at caffeine. We consume caffeine mainly through coffee, energy drinks and tea, with tolerance building up over time. Are you a ‘maximum of two drinks before I get jittery’ …
ADDICTIONS: My column in today’s Jersey Evening Post (part 1 of 2) is what lies behind addictions, no matter what they are (sugar, shopping, sport, gaming, drugs, etc). I love helping people overcome their addictions 😊 Addictions are brain disorders characterised by compulsively engaging in a behaviour even if the consequences of the behaviour are …
If you find you keeping having the same, looping conversation, feel as if you’re in ‘two minds’ or are anxious without a discernible cause, this can be because you have a contradiction going on inside you. Your mind always wants to do what you desire, so cannot cope well with the conflict! For example, say …
In the last post, we looked at when it was OK to lie; to recap, that is when you are resetting your brain’s self-sabotaging coding with better, up-to-date beliefs. Here’s another rule of the mind: your subconscious mind hates you to lose things. This means, if you have something you wish to see the back …
Sometimes it is OK to lie! You may have been brought up being told the opposite, so when is it OK to lie? It’s when you lie to yourself. Before I explain, here’s a caveat: lying to yourself to enable denial of something you really need to deal with will simply come back one day …
My column in the Jersey Evening Post – summary: – Mental health problems go on all year, not just in Mental Health Awareness Week – Social isolation and poor diet play a big part in poor mental health; I include a few explanations and suggestions – If, despite knowing what is bad for you, you …
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My column in the JEP. Summary: we are in the lucky position to make informed choices about our health – what will your choices be? Saturday saw our 75th Liberation Day and we had a 40s tea party to celebrate. The fare was really a ‘1940s meets 2020’ but, while preparing it, I thought about …
My article in the JEP; summary: Listen to the right information! Exercise helps – but maybe not in the way you think. During lockdown, exercise plays a vital part in health. First, let me tell you what it doesn’t do: it won’t burn off any excess weight you may have. That means, if you want …
My article in the JEP; summary: You can ignore the siren call of the fridge; here’s how. During this Coronavirus Isolation Period, how’s your relationship with your fridge and pantry? Do that beer, those cakes and crisps, and that left-over pizza call you like a siren song? Judging by the messages I’m getting and the …
My article in the JEP; Summary: don’t get taken in; here’s how to check the facts It’s April Fools’ Day and I can’t think of any jape around the coronavirus outbreak, but I hope you find plenty of funny other wheezes today. How to avoid sharing viral fake news There are all number of faux …
Beauport is a beautiful place to be, and a great place to unwind and reground – the only time I wouldn’t go up on the headland is during big winds! Fresh air is an amazing tonic for the mind, body and spirit… but If you are getting out for walks and still feel out of …
Fishing for Anxieties After this true and embarrassing story, I’ll tell you why I’ve put it on this page. I feel for these people in the video below (I shouldn’t have laughed, but…) and it reminded me of my one and only foray into fishing, which went thus: Me, 14.My Pal Dave, 14His older brother …
My article in the JEP; summary: here are some tips to help you with anxiety. I’m writing this on Monday morning: going by the speed of change re covid-19 over the last few days, things probably will have changed even more by the time you read this, so I’ll concentrate on a few things that …
